6 Ways to Increase Your Chances of Having Anal Sex
How to Make Your Partner Want It as Much as You Do
I absolutely love anal sex. However, I worry that when I mention it, people may not understand.
But the truth is, for me, it’s one of the most fulfilling and pleasurable forms of sex.
Through exploring my own body, I’ve found that incorporating anal play into my solo sessions creates a more intense and explosive orgasm.
Despite my desire for it, it’s still not a regular part of my sex life. I only engage in it on occasion.
So, as someone who is a full-time anal lover but only a part-time anal participant, I believe I can offer valuable insight into what it takes to make it appealing and how to get your partner in the mood for it.
However, I cannot provide any magic solutions. If your partner is not into it, pushing her to engage in anal sex is not the right approach. The reality is that some women simply do not enjoy it.
But, if your partner is open to occasional anal play, there are things you can do to make it a more regular occurrence.
Here are the six ways to increase your likelihood of having anal sex.
How to Get Your Partner in the Mood for Anal Sex
The most crucial step in having anal sex is getting your partner turned on, and unfortunately, many people neglect this step. Some may not realize how aroused their partner needs to be before they can consider engaging in anal intercourse.
Anal sex can be difficult to perform correctly and uncomfortable if not done correctly. However, having a highly aroused partner can make the experience more pleasurable for both parties.
To reach this level of arousal, you need to make sure your partner is incredibly horny. Foreplay is crucial and should be taken slowly to tease and excite your partner properly. Try to avoid rushing through the early stages of sex.
Take the time to arouse your partner fully and make sure they cannot resist. Engage in dirty talk and make them orgasm multiple times until they are begging for more.
If you can get your partner to this stage, they are more likely to be open to exploring anal sex. With the proper level of arousal, the experience is much more likely to be mind-blowing for both of you.
How to Get Your Partner Thinking About Anal Sex
For me, anal sex is not a spontaneous decision. I usually think about it beforehand. If you want to increase your chances of trying it, you need to get your partner thinking and fantasizing about it even when you are not having sex.
Flirt with her and be playful at unexpected times to keep things spontaneous. Be affectionate, but do not push the boundaries to engage in sexual activity. Sending suggestive text messages lets her know you are thinking about her, and that your thoughts are not necessarily PG-rated.
By doing this, you encourage your partner to embrace her dirty side and start to fantasize about all the things she wants you to do to her – including potential anal play.
Show Enthusiasm for Anal Sex – But Don’t Overdo It
Anal sex can be an incredibly pleasurable experience for both partners, especially when combined with clitoral stimulation. However, it is important to remember that simply having a powerful orgasm is not the only thing that will make it a good experience for her.
It’s equally important to show enthusiasm and really enjoy the experience. If she knows you are into it, she is more likely to be open to trying it again.
Let her know you love fucking her ass and how much it turns you on. While you are inside her, vocalize your pleasure by groaning and telling her how amazing it feels.
However, there is a fine line between being enthusiastic and being obsessed. If you are too overbearing and vocal, she may feel that you care more about anal sex than about her desires.
Show appreciation for both her and the experience without making her feel pressured. Strive for a healthy middle ground that demonstrates your willingness to indulge in her fantasies without making her feel uncomfortable.
Admiring Her Rear End
Even if your partner isn’t interested in anal sex, they’ll likely appreciate you admiring and showing appreciation for their behind. Start by caressing and squeezing it while you’re making out and getting intimate. Give a few playful spanks, perhaps bending them over teasingly. When undressing them, slowly reveal their derriere while complimenting their figure.
Massaging her backside sends a clear message that you are attracted to her body and aren’t just looking for a sexual encounter. This can also arouse your partner, creating a positive atmosphere that may encourage them to pursue further intimacy.
Focusing on her posterior can also be an enticing starting point for anal play, as it encourages both partners to explore each other’s bodies. Additionally, the act of showing appreciation can help boost your partner’s self-confidence and make them more open-minded about sexual exploration.
Being Open to Alternatives
When discussing anal sex, it’s important to remember that there are many other ways to pleasure your partner’s posterior. Finger play, using a well-lubricated thumb to gently rub her anus while stimulating her vagina with two fingers, or even using a butt plug can be alternative and enjoyable options.
If your partner is comfortable with it, you can also try rimming (oral stimulation of the anus) while simultaneously rubbing her clitoris.
While anal sex may be a popular topic, there are numerous other ways to play with her behind that may be less daunting or intense. Experimenting with different kinds of stimulation can lead to a highly satisfying and pleasurable experience for both partners.
By being open and explorative, you can discover what feels good to your partner, and help build trust and intimacy in your relationship. Remember that letting her take the lead on what she is comfortable with is key, and trying out different options can lead to greater sexual pleasure and satisfaction for both participants.
Providing Pleasure to Both Her Genitals
When engaging in anal sex, it’s crucial to please your partner in both her anal and vaginal regions. Starting off slowly, using proper lubrication, and paying attention to your partner’s reactions are fundamentals for a successful experience.
In addition to anal play, it’s important to focus on stimulating her clitoris. Using a vibrator or asking her to touch herself while being penetrated will help her achieve powerful blended orgasms. Not only does it make the experience more enjoyable, but it also helps avoid creating a sense of having to choose between anal and vaginal sex.
By providing satisfaction in both areas, your partner will be more inclined to engage in anal sex again, as it will be viewed as an enjoyable addition to her overall sexual pleasure.
Increasing the Appeal of Anal Sex
When it comes to engaging in anal sex, it is important to remember that the frequency of wanting to participate is largely up to your partner. It may depend on several factors, such as personal preference or arousal levels.
Despite this, there are still steps you can take to make anal sex more alluring to your partner. Engaging in techniques that provide pleasure and satisfaction, such as worshipping her buttocks, stimulating her erogenous zones, or increasing her arousal levels can help facilitate an enjoyable experience.
While these tactics cannot guarantee a desire for anal sex, they significantly increase the chances of your partner exploring this activity, and create a positive experience that encourages the exploration of other sexual desires.